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Friday Insights – How to Change Your Perspectives about Life

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This topic alone deserves an entire book to adequately address the complexities of change and the myriad of perspectives that life has to offer each one of us.

Nonetheless, I think if one really wants to change his or her perspectives about life, then either he or she must evaluate his or her beliefs.

Because what we believe and whom we believe in, especially when life’s challenges seem overwhelming, are going to reveal how we respond to change.

From a personal standpoint, I understand the relevance of having your mind renewed in order to see additional perspectives about life.  But when you’re experiencing tremendous pain or perhaps you’ve experienced too many problems for which there appears to be no solvable answers, then it’s easy for your mind to become “stuck” as it pertains to how you view your life.  That’s what happened to me several years ago.

I couldn’t see any other perspectives to make the necessary choices that might provide effective ways to change or living life any better than what I was already trying to do by merely keeping my head above water.

Being “stuck” caused me to remain focused on my own wounds and brokenness, instead of seeking God and surrendering to the possibilities of being transformed.

Yet, once I had reached the end of myself and then gave everything about my life to God, it was from this place where I learned how to accept and then see the meaning behind my painful suffering. I was able to accept the humble state I was in, and from this place, God’s grace enabled me to see the inspiring possibilities of transformational change.

Then the ultimate question from God challenged me about change: “Will you follow me?”

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Portions of this article are written by Gordon, as framed by the expressed opinions of Cherise, but not proofread.







Comment balloon 9 commentsCherise Selley • July 20 2012 02:46PM



Nice thoughts and does not have to underego pain or problems with no solutions to be stuck.  Given all the changes in all our lives, it is easy to be stuck and shut down.  One has to feel the pain of being stuck, I think, before being able to start getting out...A

Posted by Ron and Alexandra Seigel, Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy (Napa Consultants) almost 8 years ago


We have been given the gift of freedom of will, choice and consequences.  Sometimes it takes the experience of being stuck in a situation, lifestyle, self, whatever it is and to be there for a while so we are able to find our way out.  Faith comes in all forms and even people who say they do not believe in some form or another do believe.  I have found this to be truth.  I hear people all of the time say, just get over it.  Well easy to say not so easy to do and it takes a huge leap of faith to turn your face up to God and give it over to Him.  Seldom can we do it alone and if one is fortunate enough to have people who believe in them and are there for support even if it is from afar, the journey seems a little easier.  It is that first step and figuring out how to take it, the next one is easier.  He is always with us even when we think He is not, it is those Little whispers in the ear which come in the form of thought and the small miracles along the way every day that begin to make the next steps easy strides.

Thanks for a nice post.

Posted by Mary Stewart, Wilsonville and Surrounding Portland Metro Areas (HomeTrust Real Estate, LLC, Homes for Everyone) almost 8 years ago


This reminds me of the 12 steps.......especially the first 3.

1.  We admitted we were powerless over our addiction (or insert your problem here) and that our lives had become unmanageable.

2.  Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

3.  Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.

The great thing about the 12 steps is that you don't have to be in AA to utilize them.  If you are struggling with anything in life you can look to those steps and if you work on them you will gain clarity. 

Posted by Paula McDonald, Ph.D., Granbury, TX 936-203-0279 (Beam & Branch Realty) almost 8 years ago


Great insights.  Part of this blog post is piggybacking off the topic of chronic pain.  Nonetheless, I couldn't agree with you more... g

Posted by Cherise Selley, Colorado Springs Realtor (Selley Group Real Estate, LLC) almost 8 years ago


I am sure you would enjoy my book, Living Beyond the Pain, when it comes out in October.  Thanks for your comments... g

Posted by Cherise Selley, Colorado Springs Realtor (Selley Group Real Estate, LLC) almost 8 years ago


Very good points indeed, sister... g

Posted by Cherise Selley, Colorado Springs Realtor (Selley Group Real Estate, LLC) almost 8 years ago

Dear Gordon~

You remind me always to trust the great-loving spirit that is within each of us as we mirror That Which Is So  Much More...l. Thank you.

Posted by . 4Terra Land Brokers .. 828-776-0779 Asheville NC, What's Most Important to YOU? Call(828)-776-0779 ( REAL ESTATE RESOURCES & NETWORK ) almost 8 years ago

Gordon, very powerful words. I am reminded that it is way to easy to get stuck, only with a daily surrender does the mind get renewed. With eyes of faith, I see life in a new and different way. I hope you guys are well.


Posted by Cal Yoder, Homes For Sale in Lancaster PA - 717.413.0744 (Keller Williams Elite) almost 8 years ago

wow I did not know you were writing a book!  We need to go to the well to be refreshed and the Lord is the source of refreshment especially when we are down and need to be lifted back up

Posted by Marilyn Boudreaux, Lake Charles LA Century 21 Realtor (Marilyn Boudreaux, Century 21 Bono Realty) almost 8 years ago